Naisip kog magsulat about adultery not because I experienced it myself but because I find it very bothersome that so many marriages are now broken because of pangangaliwa.
Bakit nga ba may nangangaliwa?
There are a lot of reasons but two major reasons that I could think of are LUST and GREED. I know most of you will say, oh no, people cheat because no one is giving them attention or they weren’t in love with the person that they married. That might be true but come on, let’s be real here.
You cheated because you liked the sexual pleasure that the other woman/man is giving you. You liked the excitement of hiding your relationship in public because it brings you back to your younger days where you don’t want your parents to know you’re dating someone at such a young age.
You wanted more than what you already have because you feel that you deserve more. You want to fill that ’emptiness’ (which is just a fancy word for lust) within you so you find someone to fulfill it.
But anyway I will not talk about cheaters in this article. I will talk about the kabets.
I have been wondering for a long time – how does someone turn into the best kabet in town? Paano nga ba maging kabet? What kind of people are they?
I did some research on adultery within marriages and found out 5 things. Read on married couples because this is for you.
1. Always Think, Act, and Dress Young
I read so many stories and blogs about kabets and I’ve never read anyone who said kabets always smell funky, dresses up like a clown, and think like a loser. They’re not like that at all. They dress to impress and their personality vibrates around them, they can transform a lion into a kitten.
They’re people who love to love, laugh, and EAT! Yes, I had to put the eating part in there because if you noticed, those with kabets seem to gain more weight when they started fooling around. Its because they always go on a food trip!
2. Excellent Communication Skills
I found out that the majority of kabets are good listeners. And as you already know – a good listener is a good speaker. They will give all that’s left in their time for the day by listening to the woes of other people. They love to express their feelings to connect with you and make you feel that you’re not alone. Kabets are great in giving pieces of advice especially if they went through the same struggles as you have.
3. Financially Generous
I’ve never heard or read a kabet whos starving to death. They’re usually the ones with money and aren’t afraid to spend all they got for their lovers even if its the last piece of coin in their wallet. They want to feel in control and powerful and giving away money gives that satisfaction. They know how powerful money is.
4. Love Hard
You must’ve thought kabets don’t know what love is. Actually, they’re very aware of what love is! They love someone so much that they’re more than willing to risk it all for that person. They don’t always see the repercussions of their actions, because all they see is love. Kabets are proof that love indeed is blind!
5. Always Look At The Brighter Side
Kabets are typically very optimistic with the future. They would often compare themselves to the position of the wife/husband, convince themselves that they’re not doing anything wrong because the marriage was never going to last anyway. They choose to be happy and content to whatever status they have now.
I’m not sure if you noticed but all the 5 tips I gave above actually resonates with everyone. Why? Because kabets are people too just like you and me. They’re not aliens – they’re human beings no matter how much you call them demons. Lol. They live on the same planet as we do. They are who they are because God made them that way – just like you and me. They have admirable personalities like we all have. They breathe, think, and feel.
And they TOO make the wrong choices.
And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.”
So now the question is – what makes you different from a kabet?
The difference is that you have a family – a family you love with all your heart. A family, you invested all your time, effort, and emotions with. And when you have a family, you will always do your best to keep it from falling apart.
Although some couples decide to separate because they think it’s the best thing to do. I’m actually all for that. Only you know what’s best for you and for your family. After all, you can’t force someone to stay with you when that person obviously doesn’t love you anymore. Setting someone free is a form of love too you know. 🙂
However, if you think it’s best to keep your family together and give your marriage another chance, then do just that. It’s not going to be easy, but trust me, it will be worth it. 🙂
If you’re struggling to forgive, let me leave you with one of the most beautiful verses I’ve read in the Bible:
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
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