Back in the days, moms stay at home, take care of the kids, tidy up the house, prepare meals, and do other types of house chores, but today – a lot of moms have started working and earning their own money. According to the Philippine Statistics Authority, 13.3 million women are in the workforce for the year 2009. Obviously, that number has increased today.
Now, I don’t know if we all share the same reasons but as far as I am concerned, these are the reasons why I believe Pinay moms and wives should make their own money:
To Be Financially Ready
I’m going to discuss these sub-topics mostly in Tagalog to make sure I can clearly get my point across. Kung iisipin nating mabuti, pag ang lalaki lang ang kumikita, nag lalagay ng pagkain sa lamesa at bumubuhay sa pamilya, eh talagang ma fe-feel nya na kontrolado na nya ang lahat kasi iisipin nya na kahit atong gawin nya (sa pag dedisisyon man o sa kalokohan), hinding-hindi sya iiwan ng asawa nya. Bakit mo nga naman iiwan ang lalaking bumubuhay sayo at sa mga anak mo, hindi ba? Lalong lalo na kung na fe-feel mo na you can’t be financially independent because all these time you’ve been financially dependent to him. A cheating husband will financially strangle you para hindi mo sya iwan at dahil nga sa wala kang pera at hindi mo kaya tumayo sa sarili mong mga paa, you will stay with him no matter how toxic your home is.
Subukan kaya nating mga Pinay kumita ng sarili nating pera. So far, halos lahat ng babae na kilala ko na may sariling source of income are strong, independent, financially secured women. I am not insinuating that you should make money parang mas maging makapangyariihan ka sa asawa mo. What I’m saying is that, make sure you are financially capable of standing on your own feet para whatever happens, you know you and your kids will do just fine.
To Fulfill Your Own Dreams
Hindi lang naman mga lalaki ang may pangarap – tayo din mga babae meron. It’s nice to fulfill your dreams out of your own hard work. Masarap sa pakiramdam tumulong sa ibang tao gamit ang naipon mo, gumawa ng sariling projects, humawak ng sarili mong pera, maging confident that you have what it takes to make a difference and fulfill your own dreams. I remember when I first had my very first salary – it was the best feeling ever! I couldn’t believe na kaya ko din pala kumita at may kakayahan din pala ako. I want you to experience that sense of fulfillment too!
To Support Your Husband
I’m talking about hardworking, family-centered, faithful, loving men who give everything they can to provide for their family. Mas madami kayong ma fu-fulfill together kung kayong dalawa ang nagtutulungan sa lahat ng bagay kasama na sa financial. If you think your husband is bringing more than enough money to your home, how much more if you help out?
To Stay Connected With Your Husband
As housewives, our main focus is our children and house chores while our husbands are out there, making things happen, converse with influential people, go on business trips – in other words, he keeps on growing professionally, socially, mentally, and physically. This can sometimes make the two feel disconnected like you don’t have anything to share in common anymore. That’s why it’s important for us Pinay moms and wives, to find something that will challenge us and also help us grow. Wala namang masama sa pagiging ina at asawa, pero iba din yung meron tayong natututunan na bago araw araw. Consider creating a blog, put up an online business, anything challenging to help you discover your hidden skills and talents aside from taking care of the kids and tidying up the house.
To Show That You Are More Than Just A Wife and a Mom
I know you love being a mom and a wife but I also think that as a woman, you’d also love to be a good social leader, public figure, scholar, athlete, career woman, business person, and the list goes on and on. Us, Pinays has so much potential and it would be a shame kung hindi natin maipapakita sa mundo ang mga kakayahan natin.
I know a couple of full-time Pinay moms who would often share to me how their husbands would not give them money to buy what they want. Even though they hated asking for money, they had no choice but to because the husbands were the ones working for it. They shared how they couldn’t even buy a lipstick or a new purse because their husbands would discourage them and would tell them that there’s no need for them to wear lipsticks or buy a purse because they’re staying in the house for most of the time anyway. If you ask me, this is considered emotional and financial abuse but these women don’t know that. They think it’s okay because they didn’t earn the money and that them being a housewife is the only thing they know how to do.
Please believe me when I tell you this: You can do and can achieve soooooo much more! If you don’t know where to start, send me a message. I’ll do my best to help you get started!
When women support each other, incredible things happen.