Social Media nowadays make self-acceptance difficult to do. There are picture-perfect images that will unconsciously tell you to be the same. The world says – if you don’t have the things the majority of people around you have, you will never find satisfaction. For women, the pressure to be perfect in looks, acts, and in thoughts is even stronger. But the truth is, self-acceptance is the only way to find inner peace and happiness. The question now is, how exactly do you accept yourself? What do you need to do to focus more on who you really are than who you’re not?
Here some tips I’m sharing with you that I also learned in my walk through life.
1. Find Out What Your Talent Is
I was in high school when I first found out that writing is my passion. I used to write fictional novels in a big notebook then my close friends would read them and pass it on for our other classmates to read. But I never really finished those novels. I kept seeing writing as a weakness. I didn’t want people to think that I was such a hopeless romantic and the only way for me to express my feelings is through novels. I didn’t want them to judge me so I stopped writing for a long time.
I know my talent is writing but I got scared of exploring it, thinking I am never good enough. But God is great, Oh God is Good. I am turning 29 years old next month and for the past two years, writing became my only source of income. It took a lot of courage to go back to my passion but everything is worth it.
If you think you have a talent that you can share with the world, take advantage of it, regardless of what people say. You’ll start to accept yourself when you have something you can be proud of . When you have a skill that cannot be copied by just any random person, when you know you’re capable of doing something and more – you’ll slowly learn your worth and accept yourself.
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2. Take a look at your closest Family and friends
Ever heard of “birds of the same feather, flock together?” Surely you have. My own understanding of this quote is this: your family and friends won’t be supporting you and cheering you on if they didn’t accept you for who you are really are. They like your company because they can see a part of them, to you. They are ones who will teach you how to accept yourself only if you listen. Look at yourself the way people who love you do.
3. Identify Your Weakness as Strengths
Now this one may sound difficult and I admit sometimes it is. But you can try to see for yourself and find out if it works. See that bump on your check? That’s probably just reminding you to eat healthily and stay clean more often. Hate yourself for always feeling so ugly? Well, at least your body parts are working well even if it’s not as skinny or as fairer as other people’s skin. Always making mistakes at work? Remember, practice makes perfect. Its all about looking at your weakness as a strength.
4. A Little Bit of Bragging is Good for your Health
I’m guilty of doing this whenever I feel like crap. But bragging is a great way to tell yourself that you’re doing just fine. Let’s say you need to go to work you didn’t like but pays well, you can face the mirror every morning and say, “Look at you! A lot of people don’t have jobs and are barely getting by, while you have a job and live comfortably. Good job self!”
A moderate amount of bragging doesn’t hurt. Comparing yourself to other people and seeing yourself as better sometimes is okay. You can be boastful and be proud of it. I don’t think there’s a person in this world who hasn’t done this. But you do have to remember this: at the end of the day, we all are struggling with something. Regardless of who you think you are – be kind.
5. You Were Created in God’s Image
Surely God is not happy if you are not happy with what He gave you with.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.Psalms 139:14
It’s so beautiful to think about God creating and forming us in His image.
Start thinking this way: Our body parts are the same. We breathe the same, our brains work the same, and we all know how to feel. If you don’t accept yourself because you think you’re different – you’re not making any sense.
Once you begin to see both what makes us different and what makes us the same, you’ll be able to identify which one really matters. As for me, both of them matters. They are what make us human beings. While it’s not always easy to avoid focusing on your flaws, looking at what makes you human is a great first step to accept who you really are.
PS: I urge anyone who reads my blog and who wants to start writing their hearts out, to just do it. Create your own account here and let the world know who you truly are.