A couple of days ago I heard the interview of a black rapper named T.I. He talked about how he would sometimes bring his daughter to the OB to find out if his daughter is still a virgin or not. Now, every parent has their own ways of raising their children and I believe no one has any right to judge. This is a whole another topic.
What I really want to talk about is what makes virginity so important in today’s generation.
I first want to say that if you’re no longer a virgin, I am not judging you. If you choose to give yourself to the person you love, that’s a decision you make as an adult. It’s nobody’s business whether you lose your virginity before marriage or not.
However, I would like to share with you a few good reasons why virginity is important before marriage. If you are currently contemplating to engage in premarital sex, this blog is for you.
You’re Only a Virgin Once
You’ve probably heard “ You Only Live Once “ or YOLO a lot of times and as the phrase itself implies, you do only live once. Just like life, you want to make the best out of your virginity. It’s something you give to the person you know you will spend the rest of your life with because you only have it once. Do you want to give away something you know you can only have once?
Your Virginity is Something You Can Be Proud Of
If you treat virginity like a precious gift, keeping your hymen intact for the person you will many in the future is definitely something that requires patience and discipline. Not everyone can do this so tap yourself in the back for making it this far. Be proud of yourself.
You’ll Have Something to Look Forward to When You Get Married.
Of course, there are a lot of things you can look forward to after saying “ I do” at the altar. But there’s a different excitement and satisfaction when you finally lose your virginity during your first night together. Yes, it will take some time to adjust and get used to it but you have forever to discover more about each other. I remember when I was once a teenager, I didn’t engage in premarital sex because I was so afraid to get pregnant, I didn’t want to sneak around and not tell my parents about what I’m doing. I guess you can call me the typical boring Christian girl, but I really believe its liberating to lose your virginity when you do it without fear or without feeling guilty. You get to enjoy sex more, right?
Keeping Your Virginity Protect You From Diseases
Did you know that those who engage in premarital sex risk contracting one of many sexual transmitted diseases like, AIDS and Herpes? This doesn’t happen all the time but it happens more than you think. When you keep your virginity, you can avoid contracting this incurable disease and suffer from it for the rest of your life.
Keeping Your Virginity Helps Prevent Unwanted Pregnancy
This is very easy to understand and this has been taught to teenagers by their parents and in school for a long time. But this isn’t only for the teenagers. There are women who gets pregnant unprepared or have no idea what to do with their lives yet. Save yourself and the child from suffering from your mistake. The increasing number of women throwing their babies in the garage and leaving their children outside the church or a stranger’s place needs to stop. I can’t stress this enough: Have a child when you know you’re ready.
Being a Virgin Brings You Closer to God
I know you know I will include this.
The bible doesn’t say a specific prohibition against sex between an unmarried and married man. However, there are about 25 passages in the New Testament that denounces “sexual morality.”
20 He went on: “What comes out of a person is what defiles them. 21 For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder..”Mark 7:20-21
19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.Galatians 5:19-21
18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.1 Corinthian 6:18-20.
What does this tell you? If you avoid premarital sex or “ sexual immorality “ God is more likely be happy to see you, to hear from you, to bless you. I’m sure you would like that too.
Now I know what you’re thinking and most people are thinking. A successful happy marriage does not depend on whether the couple is a virgin or not. So many things a married couple needs to works in order to make their marriage last. Virginity for me is more like a promise to yourself. It is a gift that each of us are given with. What we do to it depends on our level of understanding about ourselves.
What is it that really matters to you? Do you think losing your virginity now would mean you’d be ready to face the future? Or will you still be able to face the future and still able to keep your virginity as a precious gift to your future husband?
The decision is yours to make.